Be careful about your expectations. Things often develop best if you aren't too attached to a particular outcome. I've seen a lot of people who were too caught up in "let's go have intercourse" to enjoy what was more readily available, and what was more comfortable to their partners. I've seen the same sort of situations arise from people whose expected outcomes were something more like "I want to be involved in a perfect polyfidelitous triad where no one ever gets their feelings hurt or feels jealous and we all live happily ever after". Don't miss out on what the world actually has to offer because you're too hung up on your ideal situation. There can be quite a gap between theory and practice.
On the other hand, of course, do your best to be aware of any hard and fast requirements that you have.
Do be prepared to be surprised - we don't always respond to new situations the way we expect to. And if you are surprised, either by things that you like or things that you don't like, try not to spend a lot of time beating yourself over the head for not knowing ahead of time. It can be a little hard to roll with self revelation.... but it's part of the game.
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